It has been about 3 weeks since I last posted and I thought I would fill you in on Stephen and why I needed a bit of a break.
First, Stephen is doing incredible! His last appointment was September 5th and we got the wonderful news that his effusion was GONE!! He was looking so great that we got clearance to NOT see the doctor for 6 weeks!!! As you can imagine, the longer you get to go without appointments is a huge step in the right direction!
His scars are healing beautifully and he is becoming much more comfortable with them...such a praise! He was super sensitive to them at first, as he had never seen them so red and fresh before. He asked if they would "turn white again." Once his chest tube sites FINALLY healed, he was able to take showers again...another HUGE praise as they were a bit slower to close and one got slightly infected.


September 11th marked 6 weeks from his surgery and the low fat diet ban was lifted!!! We celebrated that night with PIZZA!!!!! He of course got his favorite...meat lovers!!! I am pretty sure he went on to have pizza 3 or 4 times that week...he REALLY missed it!
On September 11th he also began this really sweet music therapy by Resounding Joy. Due to a grant he gets to receive 8 FREE sessions in our own home...such a blessing! Stephen has seemed to really respond to music and his first 2 hour long sessions have truly been full of joy...and a lot of silliness!!!
All in all, Stephen is becoming more and more himself. He is not struggling with separation anxiety as much as he was in the first couple of weeks at home. There was a point early on when he not only needed to sit by me on the couch, but also had to be touching me at all times...and I just tried to soak those cuddles in! He also sleeps fully through the night in his own bed, and is ok when Joe or I leave the house...just not when we both leave together! So, many steps are being taken in the right direction!
All in all, Stephen is becoming more and more himself. He is not struggling with separation anxiety as much as he was in the first couple of weeks at home. There was a point early on when he not only needed to sit by me on the couch, but also had to be touching me at all times...and I just tried to soak those cuddles in! He also sleeps fully through the night in his own bed, and is ok when Joe or I leave the house...just not when we both leave together! So, many steps are being taken in the right direction!
Physically he feels pretty good. Sneezing no longer hurts, that was so sad to watch! And he has been out in the front running and playing soccer. As for baseball, he has tossed a few underhand and has swung lightly on the bat. I think the first time he tried to play it hurt a bit, so he has been a little guarded since. I am hoping in another week he should be all clear to swing away!!!As for this mom, this surgery has been hard on me. Harder than I honestly ever imagined. Prior to this summer, I would say I have somewhat always carried a full load, and to the best of my ability, did it well. I never felt overly burdened, it was stressful at times, but with God's grace and strength, I could always make it work. Before stepping into that hospital I always had so much of myself to give, but right now I am broken. The stress of Stephen’s condition and surgery weighs heavy on this mom’s heart. I don’t have the same amount of myself to give as I did before, and what currently remains needs to be directed to my family. It is hard to say (and admit), but right now, I just can’t juggle it all. Working 30 hours a week as the Children's Director of our church, homeschooling my 4 children, and trying to keep up on all of the appointments, medicines and normal daily life tasks is just too much. I knew something had to be taken off my plate before I would break.
So, at the beginning of the month I submitted my resignation. This was not an easy decision, nor a decision I had planned on making before going through Stephen’s surgery. I have absolutely LOVED my 10 years in the Children’s Ministry department at Riverview Church. I began within a few months of Joe being hired as the 2 year old teacher in Sunday School for Kathleen. Within a year and a half I became her assistant and spent 6 1/2 years serving side by side with one of the greats! The last 2 years directing have been a true Joy. I LOVE what I do. I LOVE teaching the kids. I love giving them high fives and hugs every week. I love watching them learn and grow in their faith and in life. I also LOVE planning events…but I think most of you all know that! I love taking an idea and seeing it played out. I love the craziness of the Harvest Fest, the joy of OCC and the absolute fun that is Family Element!
This news usually spurs on the question of if we are moving. The answer is yes...eventually. The ultimate goal when Joe got his new job/career back in February was to always try to eventually move closer. But with a cut in pay, me working was essential, and we figured we would wait a year or so and reevaluate the whole commuting thing. The fact now is I can't work. I just can't. So either way we are going to start living off of some savings...so why not do it closer to Joe's office and spare him almost 4 hours each day in a car 5 days a week! I always thought I would have to step down from my position because we were looking to move, yet it is happening quite opposite really. Because I stepped down, it just makes sense to try to move.
So the current goal (things always change) is to try to get our house on the market in the next month or so and see what happens. I have not doubt that it will sell eventually, but as for the timing, I am choosing to trust that God will bring the right people at the right time. If that is 6 days, 6 weeks or 6 months, I am confident that it will work out as it should. We are covering this future move in prayer. We have no clue what city we will end up in, but we pray that we would land in the house, neighborhood and church that we could be useful in. We pray for our kids as this is the only home they have ever known. That the excitement of moving close to family will help mitigate the sadness of leaving friends. And that our friendships here will remain even if more distance is added between us.
So this is where I find myself. There is a season for everything, and right now I need to be entering a season of "rest". Not sure homeschooling 4 kids is ever "restful" but getting to do it without balancing working 30 hrs/wk should make it feel that way ;)
I have so much more to say on events that have happened lately, and will hopefully get a chance to write again soon. Until then, thank you so much for your continued prayers for our precious son. God is SO good!!!
So the current goal (things always change) is to try to get our house on the market in the next month or so and see what happens. I have not doubt that it will sell eventually, but as for the timing, I am choosing to trust that God will bring the right people at the right time. If that is 6 days, 6 weeks or 6 months, I am confident that it will work out as it should. We are covering this future move in prayer. We have no clue what city we will end up in, but we pray that we would land in the house, neighborhood and church that we could be useful in. We pray for our kids as this is the only home they have ever known. That the excitement of moving close to family will help mitigate the sadness of leaving friends. And that our friendships here will remain even if more distance is added between us.
So this is where I find myself. There is a season for everything, and right now I need to be entering a season of "rest". Not sure homeschooling 4 kids is ever "restful" but getting to do it without balancing working 30 hrs/wk should make it feel that way ;)
I have so much more to say on events that have happened lately, and will hopefully get a chance to write again soon. Until then, thank you so much for your continued prayers for our precious son. God is SO good!!!





































